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Fear and worry
10 prepared situations from 7 family areas. Choose the moment that is closest to yours.
The child who is fine, and stays fine, and worries youTwo Homes · When it’s more than an adjustmentTrials of programs for separated families found that the children who need attention are not always the ones producing symptoms.→Something frightening was on, and now it is bedtimeEvery Screen · What is on itSomething came on that you would not have chosen, they seemed fine at the time, and now at eight o'clock it is the only thing in the room.→Suddenly frightened of one particular person or placeTheir Own Body · When it’s more than a phasePlenty of children are wary of unfamiliar adults, and some are wary of nearly all of them.→The monster under the bedEvery Night · When the dark is frighteningFear of imagined creatures shows up around three, later than fear of dogs or strangers, because it needs an imagination good enough to build one.→Shadows, wind and the house at nightEvery Night · When the dark is frighteningThe room is not the same room after dark.→"What if something happens to you"Every Night · When the dark is frighteningSomewhere around four, children work out that people can stop existing, and it arrives at bedtime because that is when they are alone with it.→Dreading it for three daysDeep Feelings · Before it even startsAround three or four, children become able to hold a future event in mind — and an inhibited child, in Kagan's sense, holds it with the wariness attached.→Fear of making mistakesBig Skills · Calm and recoverySome children stop trying things they cannot already do.→Fear of the new or unfamiliarBig Skills · Calm and recoveryA new room, a new person, a birthday party in a hall.→Scary tantrums — when to seek helpBoth Parents · MeltdownsSome children hold their breath until they go limp or blue.→