Same Words book
Every Night
Bedtime, night waking, fear of the dark, early mornings and adult exhaustion.
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The second wind at seven o'clockEvery Night · The hour beforeA tired child does not slow down.→"I'm not tired" while rubbing their eyesEvery Night · The hour beforeThey are not lying to you.→The bedtime that keeps sliding laterEvery Night · The hour beforeNobody decides to move bedtime.→The evening that ran lateEvery Night · The hour beforeChess and Thomas described rhythmicity — how regular a child's own clock is — as a trait they arrive with.→The screen goes off and the evening breaksEvery Night · The hour beforeThe AAP puts screens out of the hour before bed, and the reason is plainer than the one people quote.→Winding down a child who winds upEvery Night · The hour beforeRothbart's work describes two separate things: how strongly a child responds and how long it takes them to come back down.→Falling asleep only if you are in the roomEvery Night · At the doorWhatever is there when sleep arrives becomes part of how sleep arrives.→Getting up again — the nights three to tenEvery Night · At the doorAlmost every method works on night one, gets worse on nights three to five and settles in the second week.→The pacifier or the thumb at nightEvery Night · At the doorA pacifier that falls out at midnight has to be found, and a two-year-old cannot.→The lovey, the light, the open doorEvery Night · At the doorWinnicott's term for the bear, the cloth or the one particular blanket was the transitional object: a thing the child owns that stands in for the adult who is not there.→Putting two children to bed aloneEvery Night · At the doorTwo children at bedtime with one adult is not one routine repeated.→Out of your bed into their ownEvery Night · At the doorHiscock's trials followed children whose parents ran a planned sleep approach and found no difference years later on emotional, behavioral or relationship measures.→Two in the morning, at your bedsideEvery Night · The middle of the nightEveryone surfaces between sleep cycles.→Milk at three in the morningEvery Night · The middle of the nightSatter's division of responsibility puts what and when with the adult and how much with the child.→Awake and ready to playEvery Night · The middle of the nightAn hour awake in the middle of the night, cheerful and chatty, is usually not distress.→Awake at the end of every cycleEvery Night · The middle of the nightSleep runs in cycles, and at the end of each one everybody comes near the surface.→A wet bed and no shame in itEvery Night · The middle of the nightNight dryness is not a skill you teach.→The weeks when it all comes undoneEvery Night · The middle of the nightSleep gets worse in patches: the fortnight a molar arrives, the week language jumps, the month a new room at daycare starts.→The monster under the bedEvery Night · When the dark is frighteningFear of imagined creatures shows up around three, later than fear of dogs or strangers, because it needs an imagination good enough to build one.→Crying out of a dreamEvery Night · When the dark is frighteningBad dreams sit in the second half of the night, when dreaming sleep takes the biggest share.→Screaming but not awakeEvery Night · When the dark is frighteningAn hour or two after lights out, a child sits up screaming, eyes open, sweating, and does not know you.→Shadows, wind and the house at nightEvery Night · When the dark is frighteningThe room is not the same room after dark.→"What if something happens to you"Every Night · When the dark is frighteningSomewhere around four, children work out that people can stop existing, and it arrives at bedtime because that is when they are alone with it.→Night lights, sounds and what actually helpsEvery Night · When the dark is frighteningA frightened child is not helped by a brighter room.→Five in the morning and the clock that decidesEvery Night · Too earlyEarly waking has three usual causes and they need opposite fixes.→How much sleep is actually enoughEvery Night · Too earlyThe consensus figures the AAP supports are wide on purpose: eleven to fourteen hours across the day for two-year-olds, ten to thirteen for three- to five-year-olds, naps included.→Hungry before the sunEvery Night · Too earlyA child who eats at five in the morning is hungry at five in the morning the next day.→Heavy and slow every morningEvery Night · Too earlyMost hard mornings are ordinary.→The tablet as the first thing they seeEvery Night · Too earlyA screen at six in the morning is the most reliable reward in the house.→When the second nap goesEvery Night · The daytime sleepDropping a nap is not a single day.→The nap is over but the day is notEvery Night · The daytime sleepNaps end somewhere between three and five, and rarely on a clean date.→Thirty minutes and tearsEvery Night · The daytime sleepA nap that ends after half an hour has ended at the join between two sleep cycles.→The five o'clock nap in the carEvery Night · The daytime sleepTwenty minutes of sleep on the way home takes the pressure off exactly the way a nap is supposed to.→Sleeps at daycare, not at homeEvery Night · The daytime sleepNothing about the child changed between the two rooms.→The night at grandparents'Every Night · When the night is not the usual oneA child sleeping in another house has lost almost everything the night usually gives them: the room, the sounds, the order of the evening and the person who says the last sentence.→Hotels, trips and other time zonesEvery Night · When the night is not the usual oneAway from home two things go wrong, and they need different answers.→The sick nightEvery Night · When the night is not the usual oneA sick child needs more of you, and the rules are the right thing to loosen.→Snoring, open mouth, restless nightsEvery Night · When the night is not the usual oneSnoring is not a small child sleeping heavily.→One room, two childrenEvery Night · When the night is not the usual oneThe fear that they will wake each other is worse than the reality.→New bed, new room, new babyEvery Night · When the night is not the usual oneChanges land badly when they arrive together, and they usually do: the new baby needs the crib, so the older child gets a bed, a different room and a rival inside a fortnight.→One of you holds, the other gives inEvery Night · The adults in the darkTwo adults running different plans do not average out into a middle one.→"You're spoiling him" at the kitchen tableEvery Night · The adults in the darkEvery generation was told something different about children and sleep, and each was told it with complete confidence.→Does letting them cry do harm?Every Night · The adults in the darkThis is the question under every argument about sleep, and it has been studied.→Nothing left by nineEvery Night · The adults in the darkBroken sleep does not divide evenly.→Weekends, holidays and the same wordsEvery Night · The adults in the darkChildren this age read context rather than rules.→