Across the Same Words collection
Bedtime
23 prepared situations from 7 family areas. Choose the moment that is closest to yours.
Bedtime is different thereTwo Homes · Two sets of rulesYou will not get the two bedtimes to match, and the attempt usually costs more than the mismatch does.→Something frightening was on, and now it is bedtimeEvery Screen · What is on itSomething came on that you would not have chosen, they seemed fine at the time, and now at eight o'clock it is the only thing in the room.→Where it sits relative to bedtimeEvery Screen · What it does to the dayThe same amount of watching costs you a different evening depending on where you put it.→The second wind at seven o'clockEvery Night · The hour beforeA tired child does not slow down.→"I'm not tired" while rubbing their eyesEvery Night · The hour beforeThey are not lying to you.→The bedtime that keeps sliding laterEvery Night · The hour beforeNobody decides to move bedtime.→The evening that ran lateEvery Night · The hour beforeChess and Thomas described rhythmicity — how regular a child's own clock is — as a trait they arrive with.→The screen goes off and the evening breaksEvery Night · The hour beforeThe AAP puts screens out of the hour before bed, and the reason is plainer than the one people quote.→Winding down a child who winds upEvery Night · The hour beforeRothbart's work describes two separate things: how strongly a child responds and how long it takes them to come back down.→Falling asleep only if you are in the roomEvery Night · At the doorWhatever is there when sleep arrives becomes part of how sleep arrives.→Getting up again — the nights three to tenEvery Night · At the doorAlmost every method works on night one, gets worse on nights three to five and settles in the second week.→The pacifier or the thumb at nightEvery Night · At the doorA pacifier that falls out at midnight has to be found, and a two-year-old cannot.→The lovey, the light, the open doorEvery Night · At the doorWinnicott's term for the bear, the cloth or the one particular blanket was the transitional object: a thing the child owns that stands in for the adult who is not there.→Putting two children to bed aloneEvery Night · At the doorTwo children at bedtime with one adult is not one routine repeated.→Out of your bed into their ownEvery Night · At the doorHiscock's trials followed children whose parents ran a planned sleep approach and found no difference years later on emotional, behavioral or relationship measures.→The day comes out at bedtimeDeep Feelings · The adults around themThe questions arrive at nine at night for a straightforward reason: it is the first point in the day with nothing else running in it.→Bedtime reflection: three good thingsBig Skills · In calm momentsA small child's day arrives in pieces and does not automatically become a story.→The bedtime replayEvery Grown-Up · After it went badlyThe house is finally quiet, and that is exactly when the day comes back: the sharp voice at breakfast, the phone you looked at while they were talking, the thing you said and cannot unsay.→Bedtime battles: "one more book, one more water"Both Parents · SleepBedtime asks a child to give up two things at once: your company and control of their own evening.→When they won't let you leave the roomBoth Parents · SleepFalling asleep means being alone in the dark, and for a small child that is the biggest separation of the day.→Getting out of bed again and againBoth Parents · SleepEvery trip out of bed earns something: a face, a voice, a reaction.→Waking at night and wandering the houseBoth Parents · SleepWaking in the night is not a failure of sleep training.→The 5 a.m. wake-upBoth Parents · SleepToddlers cannot read clocks, and five in the morning does not feel different from seven.→