Across the Same Words collection
Leaving and transitions
12 prepared situations from 5 family areas. Choose the moment that is closest to yours.
A handover you cannot be in the room forTwo Homes · The handoverSome pairs of adults cannot stand in a doorway together yet, and the honest response is to design around it rather than to keep attempting it.→The lovey, the light, the open doorEvery Night · At the doorWinnicott's term for the bear, the cloth or the one particular blanket was the transitional object: a thing the child owns that stands in for the adult who is not there.→Getting out the doorDeep Feelings · After they held it inLeaving is not one task.→The goodbye at the doorDeep Feelings · Before it even startsProtest at separation is the attachment system doing its job.→Handover — they walk in mid-meltdownEvery Grown-Up · The other parentOne of you has been holding a limit for twenty minutes.→Leaving your crying child at the doorEvery Grown-Up · Daycare and sittersCrying at drop-off peaks between one and three, and it is a sign of attachment working rather than failing.→Leaving the playgroundBoth Parents · TransitionsFor a toddler, a good thing ending is a small grief.→Turning off the tabletBoth Parents · TransitionsScreens are built without endings.→Getting out the door in the morningBoth Parents · TransitionsYou are on adult time, and they have no concept of late.→Leaving grandma's or ending a playdateBoth Parents · TransitionsLeaving a place is one thing.→Getting out of the bathBoth Parents · TransitionsGetting into the bath and getting out of it are two different fights with two different causes.→The transition formula that works anywhereBoth Parents · TransitionsEvery switch costs a toddler something.→