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Preparing an older child for a new baby
Explore telling a child a baby is coming, changes to routines and life with a new sibling. Find the relevant Same Words situation overview. 15 situation overviews from 5 books.
A new baby at the other houseTwo Homes · New peopleA new baby arrives at the other house. The child's family changes in a home they visit, adding a sibling to one side of their weekly life.→Toilet training goes backwards for no clear reasonTheir Own Body · When it’s more than a phaseToilet habits move backward after progress, without an obvious change explaining it. An earlier stage returns to daily life and begins appearing across familiar routines.→New bed, new room, new babyEvery Night · When the night is not the usual oneA new bed, room, or baby changes the child's nighttime setting. Sleep must continue while familiar places and family arrangements are shifting around it.→Telling them a baby is comingTwo Children · Before the baby comesThe family has news that a baby is coming, and one child is about to hear it for the first time. The future is already changing for the adults, while the child has not yet met the idea.→"Where is the baby right now?"Two Children · Before the baby comesA coming baby is still an idea until the child asks where the baby is right now. The question brings pregnancy into the immediate family conversation, making something in the future feel suddenly present.→My child does not want a new babyTwo Children · Before the baby comesNews of a coming baby is met with a direct objection rather than excitement. The family is preparing for someone new while one child is making it clear that this change was not their choice.→Big changes before the babyTwo Children · Before the baby comesSeveral familiar parts of family life are changing before the baby arrives. Rooms, routines, sleeping places, or daily expectations feel less settled while the older child waits for a sibling they have not met.→The helper who was invitedTwo Children · Before the baby comesThe older child is invited to help with something connected to the coming baby. The task offers a new place in family preparations, while participation is still separate from being responsible for the baby.→The first meetingTwo Children · The first weeksThe older child meets the new baby for the first time. Adults are watching, the baby is finally present, and an imagined family change becomes a real person in the room.→Going backwardsTwo Children · The first weeksAfter the baby arrives, the older child returns to behaviors the family thought were behind them. Familiar abilities are still there, but daily life suddenly includes earlier ways of needing adult care.→Rough handsTwo Children · The first weeksThe older child's hands are too rough around the baby. Curiosity, closeness, and physical excitement meet a much smaller body, turning an ordinary approach into a tense family moment.→The feed is when everything happensTwo Children · The first weeksAs soon as the baby begins feeding, the older child needs help, attention, or something urgent. A quiet feeding moment becomes the exact time when several family demands arrive together.→Everyone came to see the babyTwo Children · The first weeksVisitors arrive to meet the new baby, filling the home with attention for its newest person. The older child is present while greetings, gifts, and conversation repeatedly gather around the baby.→When the adult is not okay eitherTwo Children · The first weeksThe children are having a difficult moment, and the adult is struggling too. Family needs continue while the person expected to hold everything together feels upset, depleted, or unable to stay steady.→A new baby in the houseBoth Parents · With other kidsA new baby is now part of the household, changing familiar rooms, routines, and attention. The older child is meeting family life with someone new in the place that used to feel entirely known.→