Across the Same Words collection
Sibling conflict
23 prepared situations from 1 family areas. Choose the moment that is closest to yours.
Hitting the little oneTwo Children · When they hurt each otherAt two and three, the gap between feeling something and doing something is close to zero.→BitingTwo Children · When they hurt each otherBiting clusters at the age when a child has strong feelings and almost no vocabulary to spend them on.→Taking it by forceTwo Children · When they hurt each otherGrabbing is not a failure of manners.→The pinch nobody sawTwo Children · When they hurt each otherHiding it means the child understands the rule.→The baby wrecked the towerTwo Children · When they hurt each otherHere the older child is right.→Who you help firstTwo Children · When they hurt each otherSomeone is crying and someone is standing.→"Mine!"Two Children · What is shared and what is mineOwning things securely is what makes sharing possible.→Turns that end when you are finishedTwo Children · What is shared and what is mineA timer ends a turn at a moment that has nothing to do with the child's work.→The shelf they cannot reachTwo Children · What is shared and what is mineMost repeating conflicts in a house with two small children are conflicts about three or four specific objects.→Everything ends up in his mouthTwo Children · What is shared and what is mineMouthing and pulling things apart is how a one-year-old investigates.→Two children, one favorite thingTwo Children · What is shared and what is mineBuying a second identical one rarely works, and the reason is worth knowing: what the child wants is not the object's function.→Hand-me-downsTwo Children · What is shared and what is minePassing things down looks efficient to an adult and looks like confiscation to a child.→"You love him more"Two Children · Fairness and comparisonThis is rarely a claim and almost always a question, asked at the worst possible moment because that is when it becomes urgent.→Equal is not the same as fairTwo Children · Fairness and comparisonSplitting everything exactly in half looks like the safe route and creates the opposite of what it promises.→Labels stickTwo Children · Fairness and comparisonThe calm one and the wild one start as shorthand between tired adults and end as the children's own descriptions of themselves.→"You're the big one now"Two Children · Fairness and comparisonThe sentence sounds like a compliment and functions as a bill.→Comparing them out loudTwo Children · Fairness and comparisonA comparison meant to motivate one child costs you both of them.→Different rules for different agesTwo Children · Fairness and comparisonTwo children in one house cannot have identical rules, and the older one will notice the gaps in both directions.→The minutes when nothing is wrongTwo Children · When they get alongAdults are trained by the noise.→A game the little one can actually playTwo Children · When they get alongMost sibling play collapses at the same point: the younger child cannot do the thing the game requires, so they interfere with it instead.→Reading the little oneTwo Children · When they get alongBe nice to your brother gives a child no information.→"Remember when"Two Children · When they get alongSiblings who have a shared story argue as much as anybody else, but they recover faster.→One job for twoTwo Children · When they get alongSmall children help willingly, and they cooperate most readily when the task genuinely requires two people.→